LGBT community loves to sit in IGNORANCE!

Hey, YOU!  Yes, you...I am talking to you  -   The woman or man who is sitting there in complete ignorance.  I know it's easier to sit in the ignorance than to actually pick yourself up, look within and change.
It's easier to blame another person for why your relationships haven't worked out in the past.  It's easier for you to put up walls so no one will break your heart again.  It's easier to pretend you don't need love.  It's easier to see yourself as perfect.  It's easier to whine, bitch and moan about why life has got you down. It's easier to find the next alcoholic beverage or pill of choice to fill any void.   It's easier to focus on all things negative and SIT IN IGNORANCE than to live life with purpose.

What's funny is I used to be YOU!  Chasing after the ultimate gift, LOVE.  Looking for that partner to "complete" me, to make me feel valued and worthy.  I abandoned my needs and self sabotaged just to feel validated, for one person to love me.  And when it didn't work out, I knew exactly who to blame - the other person.  I was cheated on, beaten, lied to, thrown out of windows, guns put to my head, my needs were not met; so how could this be my fault?  I was like you....just bitchin' and complaining to my friends why the other person wasn't good enough and better luck next time.  Well, at least until I learned these 2 words, PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT.  (google it, youtube it, look it up)

I spent the past 3 years, dedicating my time to serving the LGBT community, my family.  And, it saddens me to realize that so many of you think you don't need to look within, don't need change and don't care about bettering your life.  Well, I do!  I want better for you.  I am tired of watching the majority of the LGBT community sit in ignorance.   If you actually took the time to look within and see your own flaws then you guessed it....You couldn't sit in ignorance anymore, you would grow, evolve and change - you would love differently.

If you want a partner, a lover, a friend to treat you with unconditional, respectful love then be the best example by loving yourself.  This starts with Personal Development, looking within!  Changing yourself for the better and becoming a positive role model in the LGBT community.  Do something other than support FREE BEER parties looking for the next person you can whine about being a victim to.
Invest in this journey for you.  I am not saying it will be easy but I can guarantee it will change how you live, see and value the rest of your life.  Don't give me the babble of how you are in a happy, committed relationship.  That's awesome but make it immensely better, be in constant growth, both of you!  I want you to want more for you.  I am committed to serving the LGBT community, to transforming lives, one heart and soul at a time.  Your heart, Your Soul ...now get to work.
If you don't know how to get started send me a quick email and I will help you find the resources  you need on your journey to becoming the BEST YOU!  SoulMateGuide@gmail.com

Give me a break - God will Bless Me Chain Letter!

If you follow me at all, you know that my foundation is my faith and love is my religion.  God is a part of my life everyday and lately who I talk to the most.  But, my relationship with God is mine!  When I am praying, meditating - talking or listening to God, you are not on 3 way!  It's my personal relationship with God.  Yes, you are my friend and want to impress your beliefs, thoughts and religious rights of passage onto me.  I get it!  You are supposed to spread God's message to the world. You go to church every Sunday and scream all week that Jesus Saves on social media.  That's ok with me to!  But, where I draw the line is these GOD WILL LOVE and BLESS ME CHAIN LETTERS.

We all get them.  The message reads:  I say a specific prayer and send it to 14 people (not 13) then in 24 hours God is going to love and bless me, give me a miracle in my life.  It is very important not to break this chain, right!  We all want the miracle, God's blessing!

Who wouldn't?

Guess what?  I don't want that crap!  My faith and my love of God stands in certainty every second of every day.  God doesn't especially bless me because of a chain letter.  And, for those of you who say "IT WORKS...IT WORKS....I WAS BLESSED."   Damn right it worked.  You spent the last 24 hours paying attention to your life and what God was doing to bless it.  Every other day, you tip toe through life paying no attention to God's daily blessings.  But, the second you get that chain letter, say the prayer and forward it....it's on!

Newsflash!  God blesses your life everyday without a chain letter.  It's your blind butt (and you know I want to say something more harsh here) that isn't paying attention to the gift.
You know how I know that I don't need a chain letter..... I woke up today!  Pretty damn good miracle and blessing, don't ya think?

These letters are always sent from those friends who scream about Jesus, go to church on Sundays and preach their religion all week long.  Makes me kind of question ...where is their faith?  I don't doubt mine for a minute.  My message here, pay attention every day and watch your life before you be a miracle, a gift from God. (the universe or your higher power)

Should Your Relationship Status Be UNSTABLE?

I consider myself a very observant person, a student of behavior.  And, with over 4000 friends on facebook, I have a fast moving wall.  I watch friends post about their lives, kids, sports, accomplishments, heartbreaks, world inspirations and even our battle for LGBT Equality.

My frustration truly sets in when I watch them jump from relationship to relationship. We have to be blind not to see it. They describe the heartbreak, the loss is unbearable. The blame and often the demise is posted and portrayed right on facebook, on social media.  The break up and the EX has ruined their life forever.  They can't eat, can't sleep and will never, ever, ever love again!  The relationship status goes to Single.  Then BAM.... 2 months later they have met their "next" soul mate.

Yes, you guess it.  The relationship status goes to IN A RELATIONSHIP.  Pictures all over facebook along with professed love splattered all over social media.  Friends gather around in support of the soul mate love; Happiness All Around!  Dating quickly jumps to living together and sure as shit they are engaged to be married.  Why not marriage?  Clearly that is the next step, right.  They go from dating a few weeks, in lasting love, to living together and within a few months rings are exchanged along with a promise of forever.

But, don't miss a few days on facebook or social media because if you blink, the relationship is over! Blame is being thrown out along with every card, personal item and name calling.  Relationship status goes back to SINGLE.  And, of course...this time it's really it.  This EX is the one that really, really, really ruined their life.  And, they will never ever,ever, ever love again.  Friends circle, bring out the booze, the kleenex in support of the broken heart, the victim.

Let's (LEZ) Get Real, Friends!  What is our expectation when we jump from one unhealthy relationship to the next?   When you begin a relationship without the stability of a foundation of time, exchange of friendship, co-creating a partnership of love, support of differences and complete understanding of each other's needs and love language you can be assured of a break down.  It's really over before it gets started.  It's just a matter of time til you wake up and say "I want the person back that I first met."  Truth.....Real Truth...the person you met in the beginning is not the real person.  It's just the best part of them and often a small part.

And, stop posting on social media how the other person broke your heart, it's all their fault, and love sucks.  Love doesn't suck.  Love didn't do anything to you.  You did it to yourself.  It's time to turn your finger pointing and blame on yourself.  You rushed into the relationship, you abandoned your healing, you abandoned your needs, you self sabotaged your heart by not taking the time to set a foundation.

Of course, I am compassionate, I am a Love Coach.  But, I can't sit and watch someone fall into the same hole over and over again.  At some point, the person must learn to walk around the hole or choose a different road altogether.  Listen, I have had my fair share of heartbreak.  But, every relationship, good or bad, is co-created.  If there is a breakdown, a break up, even if the other person cheated you are still responsible for the demise.  You have to find the lesson, the gift in what happened, what was your part in the break up and  how can you assure it will  not happen again.

What can you do for yourself to assure it will not become an unhealthy cycle?  Look Within!  Take time to grow from each heartbreak, understand what you want and need from your next partner and stand in that certainty.  Stop accepting the next person who shows you attention.  Don't be so willing to change your RELATIONSHIP STATUS.  Take time to Love You!